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The State of Black Love in Arizona – Is There Hope for African American Couples Here?
The impending royal wedding between Prince Harry and American actress Meghan Markle got me thinking about interracial relationships! Much of the media coverage on their relationship has focused on the fact that Markle is biracial. Her father is white and her mother is Black.
Of course, PhxSoul.com is extremely happy that Prince Harry and Markle are blissfully in love and I wish them nothing but the best as they embark on a lifelong journey together.
However, interracial relationships don’t quite make everyone happy. Especially in Arizona.
Over the years, I’ve engaged in many conversations with Arizonans about the state of interracial dating here.
I hear comments and questions from Black women like:
“Do Black men only date white women out here?”
“If Black men in AZ loved their mothers and sisters, they wouldn’t date or marry outside of their race.”
“Black men in AZ just can’t handle strong Black women.”
Conversely, I hear the following comments and questions from Black men:
“Black women in AZ are shallow. They want you to be 6 foot, 2 inches tall, with an athletic build, making a six-figure salary and completely faithful. Meanwhile, they’re not bringing equal value to the table.”
“Black women in AZ are unapproachable in public. Too much attitude.”
“Black women in AZ are playing in the snow more than Black men!”
If you talk to enough Black people out here, you’d think that Black love is dead in Arizona. I can’t lie, I see many interracial relationships when I’m out in public.
However, statistics from the 2010 U.S. Census Bureau show that there’s still a strong chance for Black love in the Grand Canyon State!
The 2010 U.S. Census Bureau report shows that only 9.3 percent of households in Arizona feature a husband and wife of a different race. Additionally, only 18 percent of unmarried, opposite-sex partner households in our state involved an interracial relationship. Furthermore, 15.2 percent of same-sex partner households in Arizona involved an interracial relationship. The report does not detail the specific racial makeup of those couples.
I’m happy to say I’ve had mostly wonderful experiences with Black women in Arizona. I’m married to a beautiful Black queen who was born and raised in St. Croix of the U.S. Virgin Islands. I met her in Arizona back in 2003 at a house party in Chandler. We have a big local circle of married friends and 95 percent of them are Black couples.
Bottom line, love is beautiful to me no matter what color is involved.
But, you’re telling yourself a lie if you are Black and you don’t think any Black partners are available. You will occasionally run into Black men and women who prefer to date outside of their race, but that’s their choice. Just move on.
Don’t buy into the falsehoods and rumors that you hear about Black love in Arizona.
You can find what you want, you just have to be patient and keep your eyes, minds and hearts open to the possibilities.
Written by Tremaine Jasper, Owner and Managing Editor of PhxSoul.com.
Thanks for keeping hope alive!!! I will be patiently waiting!!
WOW! I have only been here for a very short time and Black folks here are very cold and suspicious. Maybe they have cause but if we unify we can maximize. Love will win.We are a strong proud good looking people that need to come together and support one another because we know better.
Observation: Most of the comments I’ve seen that say things like this seem to come from men and women who wouldn’t be a good catch anyway. So the irony is that their negativity makes them made for each other but also keeps them from getting together.
First off kinda off topic but I think this website is dope as fuck.
I hope to be relocating to the Phoenix Metro Area by October of 2018 and I being from Detroit MI am still hoping to fall in love and marry a beautiful black woman so I’m looking forward to see what the prosperous and forward moving women of the Metro Phoenix Area are about. By the way I’m 6’3 dark-skinned and I generate well over $100K.
With no picture or age range to back up this post. Makes me wanna say Hmmmm. 😕
look me up Omarri Ali, I’m moving from Atlanta to Phoenix in May 2018. Alicia is the name.
My recommendation is to bring your own company and enjoy the experience together bro. I know exactly what you are looking for and you may want to make a stop in Atlanta, DC. The west is a different vibe.. My reference for you is a simple “whatupdoe”
Omarri, Let me be the first to put in a bid. I’m up for trying again in AZ.
Thanks for the statistics. People date who they want. That’s fine. I personally would skip Phoenix. I don’t think it’s a lost of hope, falsehoods or negativity but rather people know what they see around them and it’s not black couples. Those thinking Phoenix is the next Atlanta, NY, DC Or Chitown are way off base. Phoenix is Phoenix. There is hope…in other states. So just as the author states, just move on…to another city if you’re looking for that.
I totally agree. Phoenix is Phoenix. Enjoy the experience or move 🙂
I a 62year old female. I relocated to Phoenix initially to care for my ailing sister. I reluctantly decided to stay here for a change of climate. I have never been to a place where I’ve found my people so cold towards one another. I was raised to smile and say hello, to offer a hand when you can. My encounters here are cold stares IF they acknowledge once we make eye contact. The men are mostly in interracial relationships. That’s how they roll out here. I will not let Phoenix change me. I have never dated outside of my race I’ve never found it necessary,
I agree with you Princess Wade, I’ve learned to go out and enjoy myself solo because if I was waiting on someone to ask me I’d never leave the house lol, AZ is a very beautiful state but the black race here is very weird, I still speak and just keep it moving because the females think everyone wants their men if you so much as say hi smh…most ppl I get along with I’ve discovered relocated here from somewhere else
This is a fact. I know some one is not from here if they make eye contact and speak. Regardless of age this is something that most black people get in their respective communities. Not the case in AZ.
I’m excited to have found an active thread on this topic! Considering relocating to Phoenix from CT, in need of a change of pace.
I understand the male female dynamic is questionable, but what about sisterhoods? Are women receptive to each other? I am 27, ready for my husband, but he will come when we’re both prepared. In the interim, I’d still love to meet new people and gain experiences.
Do y’all find that people are cold down there, or just that theyre not so black couple friendly?
Great site, great thread, thanks for being here when I needed it!
I’m a white man and date only black woman. There beautiful loving and very sexy. Plan on meeting the right woman and getting married. I hope soon.