The impending royal wedding between Prince Harry and American actress Meghan Markle got me thinking about interracial relationships! Much of the media coverage on their relationship has focused on the fact that Markle is biracial. Her father is white and her mother is Black.
Of course, PhxSoul.com is extremely happy that Prince Harry and Markle are blissfully in love and I wish them nothing but the best as they embark on a lifelong journey together.
However, interracial relationships don’t quite make everyone happy. Especially in Arizona.
Over the years, I’ve engaged in many conversations with Arizonans about the state of interracial dating here.
I hear comments and questions from Black women like:
“Do Black men only date white women out here?”
“If Black men in AZ loved their mothers and sisters, they wouldn’t date or marry outside of their race.”
“Black men in AZ just can’t handle strong Black women.”
Conversely, I hear the following comments and questions from Black men:
“Black women in AZ are shallow. They want you to be 6 foot, 2 inches tall, with an athletic build, making a six-figure salary and completely faithful. Meanwhile, they’re not bringing equal value to the table.”
“Black women in AZ are unapproachable in public. Too much attitude.”
“Black women in AZ are playing in the snow more than Black men!”
If you talk to enough Black people out here, you’d think that Black love is dead in Arizona. I can’t lie, I see many interracial relationships when I’m out in public.
However, statistics from the 2010 U.S. Census Bureau show that there’s still a strong chance for Black love in the Grand Canyon State!
The 2010 U.S. Census Bureau report shows that only 9.3 percent of households in Arizona feature a husband and wife of a different race. Additionally, only 18 percent of unmarried, opposite-sex partner households in our state involved an interracial relationship. Furthermore, 15.2 percent of same-sex partner households in Arizona involved an interracial relationship. The report does not detail the specific racial makeup of those couples.
I’m happy to say I’ve had mostly wonderful experiences with Black women in Arizona. I’m married to a beautiful Black queen who was born and raised in St. Croix of the U.S. Virgin Islands. I met her in Arizona back in 2003 at a house party in Chandler. We have a big local circle of married friends and 95 percent of them are Black couples.
Bottom line, love is beautiful to me no matter what color is involved.
But, you’re telling yourself a lie if you are Black and you don’t think any Black partners are available. You will occasionally run into Black men and women who prefer to date outside of their race, but that’s their choice. Just move on.
Don’t buy into the falsehoods and rumors that you hear about Black love in Arizona.
You can find what you want, you just have to be patient and keep your eyes, minds and hearts open to the possibilities.
Written by Tremaine Jasper, Owner and Managing Editor of PhxSoul.com.